Real Connections

We live in a time of a lot of exposure, from Instagram to Facebook, to Pinterest, and let me not forget my old and trusted friend google; there is so much more information clients have access to. There is an over-saturation of pictures and ideas and honestly most good planners have similar images. So, the question is what makes a couple select one planner in their area over the other? It is beyond the pretty pictures or the perfectly curated color-blocked page. It is all about a real connection. 

Picture by Quintessense Photography

I have run my wedding planning company successfully for over 10 years and I can honestly tell you that one thing that has made a difference for me besides by client acquisition process is I focus on making real connections with every potential couple. When clients are shopping for a planner, they are looking for more than titles, skills, and credentials (although this is important, and you absolutely should have the skill to take on this important...

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Look Around You

Success is when preparation meets opportunity-Zig my question to you my people is when success comes knocking will you be prepared? 

Hi people, I hope you have taken some time to meditate on my question from the last blog post. I needed to pour myself a cut of tea while thinking about this question. I felt like it was screaming at me. Raise your hand if you felt the same way, hahaha trust me, we are all in this together. 

What is the significance of that question you wonder? For me, this question has become even more important in this season Covid19 where the fast pace of life has slowed down and we are facing a lot of uncertainty about what the postcovid19 world will look like. I don't know if I am alone, but I believe we will all be surrounded by new opportunities. Of course, things will be different, and we will all be affected but in the midst of the crisis there will be opportunities. 

The only way we can hit the sweet spot of success is if we are...

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I Took My Own Advice

advice opportunities May 07, 2020

Hi people, Happy New Month. It has been a few weeks since I shared something with you. The very last post I shared, was about the importance of having a mindset to thrive in a season where others are trying to survive. So I decided to take my own advice "allow yourself to creatively grow and develop." I did just that by taking a break "to dig deep, and relentlessly seize the opportunities in front of me." 

The time off was necessary and I never in a million years thought that come May, we will still be in quarantine state........but here we are. One of the things this season has taught me the most is the importance of digging deeper. It is no lie when they say you never know what you are capable of until life requires you to know. 

I have learned that daily we are presented with options, some of which are glaring and others which are subtle but it takes us recognizing these random options as opportunities for us to rise to the challenge. Success is...

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Thrive Don't Survive


Hi people, I hope you are coping well in this season of Covid19. I started working on what I wanted to share with you this week and for a second I was stumped. Not because I don’t have tons of content, I have been itching to share but because the climate is so weird right now. In the spirit of full transparency, 70% of my events have been postponed to next year and I am like “wait what is going on?”


So, what is the most appropriate response in this moment for me, one word: THRIVE. I want you to be reminded that we are not created to merely survive but to “Thrive.” What does this mean in context to what is happening now? To thrive is to prosper, flourish, the Longman dictionary describes it as to enjoy or be successful in a particular situation, especially one that other people find difficult or unpleasant. 

One of the points I made in the webinar I had in January of 2020 “4 things you need to know before starting out as a wedding...

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Renew Your Mind


Hi people, Shile here reporting live from Covid-19 quarantine state day 8……….okay jokes aside it is officially day 8 since I have been home trying to adhere to the guidelines from the Maryland government about social distancing. Needless to say, these are interesting times indeed!


One of my mentees has all her events in the fall and I said to her “girl you are so lucky.” I, on the other hand, has been dealing with postponement plans and the effects it has on the clients. I have spent the last few days talking a lot with my event planner friends and other industry professionals and one thing that everyone is trying to do is take it a day at a time. One question on a lot of people’s minds is what to do now that you are home for the next couple of weeks. 

You know your girl; I am all about resting in times like this, but I also really think one thing we should all do is see this time as an opportunity to “RENEW OUR...

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When Things Go Wrong


I hosted a webinar recently called “how to plan right when things go wrong” (a snippet of the webinar can be viewed in the clip above) ……. Well, little did I know how wrong things were about to get. The webinar was great and the main focus of it all was crisis management. As event professionals, we understand that crisis will happen and it’s all about how to approach it. 

Well, no one was prepared for the crisis of covid-19 and the impact it will have on the event industry until it happened and here we are right in the middle of it all. In full disclosure, I had one event cancel and three events get postponed in the month of April and we are yet to reschedule a new date because there is a lot of uncertainty regarding what will happen next.

The last point I mentioned in the webinar was to be flexible and improvise when a crisis occurs. This point has been so real over the last few days. Here are some tips on what to do with the crisis we are...

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Making The Best First Impression

Did you hear......I released a new FREE downloadable template this month? I want to make sure my people get a chance to snag it too. Grab your copy HERE.

I can’t stress enough the importance of making a great first impression. The world we live in is fast-paced and most times you have less than 5 seconds to grab people’s attention. When a couple reaches out to you to plan their wedding, they have taken time out of their schedule to figure out if you will be the right fit for them. So, make it count!

I get questions from new planners all the time wondering what it is they are doing wrong and why it seems they are not booking the right clients or why they are having consultations, but that are not leading to any sales. When I seat with them and inquire further, I have found that sometimes the issue is they are not asking the “right questions.”

Trust me I was there too. The more I practiced talking with clients the more comfortable I got and the more I could...

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Should I Bother? -Webinar Q&A


I get this question so often from emerging wedding planners and I can totally relate. I hosted a webinar in January of 2020 on “4 things you need to know before starting as a wedding planner.” This question came up again, so I decided to write a blog post about it because I feel it is such an important topic to address (you can watch my video response to this question from the QandA session on the webinar).

Believe it or not, a lot of people who want to start out as planners feel the exact same way. In your heart, you really want to do this, but your mind is saying, “no, there are so many other people who do it so well so why bother?” I get it, but before you rule yourself out, come with me on this journey.

Close your eyes with me for a second and think about the major restaurants in your area (you can open now so you can keep reading lol). For my area DC, Maryland, and Virginia there are a lot of fast-food restaurants like McDonald's, Burger King,...

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Welcome Back

 The last time you heard from me was 11 months ago. I cannot believe this year has gone by so fast. As 2019 was approaching last year I had plans, great plans on what I wanted to do especially in relation to mentoring and RAE Moments. The year started off rough with some personal setbacks but 2019 has also been a very amazing year in a lot of ways. The truth is I have been hiding something from you all for a while.


I am sure you are like whatttttttt, it’s not as bad as you think. What I have been hiding is a good thing. For the past 11 months, I have been building an online teaching platform for wedding planners. Phew, I am so glad I got it off my chest. It is not a secret anymore my people, is live and here to stay. 

If you have been rocking with me for a while, you know I have been teaching and mentoring for years but this year I decided I wanted to take the knowledge online.

 Don’t get me wrong I still love to mentor and coach but...

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A lot of times when we think of the word "compassion" it's usually in the context of family and friends. Have you ever thought of the word compassion for your clients? That’s what I want to focus on today.

Compassion is defined as a sympathetic concern for others. Other ways to describe compassion is empathy, kindness, consideration, showing understanding. An article in “Huffington Post” broke it down so well as it described eight signs you a compassionate person:

  1. You find commonalities with other people
  2. You don’t put emphasis on money
  3. You act on empathy
  4. You are kind to yourself
  5. You teach others
  6. You are mindful
  7. You have high emotional intelligence
  8. You express gratitude

Compassion is a trait some readily have but it is also a trait that can be developed if it doesn't come naturally to you.

When I started out with this post I thought it was going to be one part but I got half way and felt,  wow a lot has been said already by looking at these eight signs....

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